It is always a difficult situation for a parent when a child moves out of the house. It’s a mix of emotions- loneliness, excitement, pride, fear and more. On this Reddit thread, people share what surprised them the most when their kids left.
1. “The difference between peaceful quiet and sad, lonely quiet.”
2. “How much my kids truly like and love me. They keep in contact all the time and find any excuse to come over and hang out with me. I figured they would just go on their own lives and leave me behind. Guess I did a good job.”
3. “How much cleaner and tidier the house became.”
4. “How similar it feels to starting your life over after a breakup or graduating from college.”
5. “How much I’d miss them. They’ve grown into mindful, independent, kind, loving adults who can afford their own therapy.”
6. “To answer on my parents’ behalf: how much the two of them had grown apart.”
7. “That their rooms still get dusty and the walls that keep closing in.”
8. “All the stuff he had. I don’t know where he got thousands of dollars worth of cameras, tablets, laptops, and other expensive things.
He never had a traditional employer. When we saw all the stuff, we thought he got into drugs or stealing or something.”
9. “How seldom he initiates communication with us. I’d thought he’d have a lot more questions about things, but I guess he learned how to live his life on his own.”
10. “The moment our son moved out to live on his own he became vegetarian. He never gave us any indication he was planning to or wanted to be a vegetarian.”
11. “How quickly they pick things up. I don’t mean that literally. I think, I thought my daughter would be a potato for much longer than she was.”
12. “How they can sleep so many hours but yet keep you from sleeping.”
13. “I’ve learned you save the most for retirement after the kids move out.”
14. “How quickly they moved back in.”
15. “How much they ate and how much electricity they used. Those things built gradually over time so I never really noticed as it happened.”
Be right back, going to give my parents a hug.