It’s 2019 and African American rapper, T.I casually quipped that he still accompanies his daughter to the gynaecologist to make sure that her hymen is still intact.
The revelation was made on a podcast called ‘Ladies Like Us’ on which the rapper had made a guest appearance, on Tuesday.
“Right after her birthday, we celebrate, then usually like the day after the party, she’s enjoying the gifts, I put a sticky note on the door: ‘Tomorrow. 9:30,’”, he said, explaining the trips to the gynaecologist, something that the rapper says began after his daughter’s 16th birthday.
He also admitted during the conversation that his daughter’s doctor required her to sign a waiver that allowed her father to see the results.
So we’ll go and sit down and the doctor will come and talk, and the doctor’s maintaining a high level of professionalism,” he says. “He’s like, ‘Well you know, sir, I have to, to share information’ — I’m like, ‘Deyjah, they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you would not want me to know? See, Doc? Ain’t no problem.’
The rapper also goes on to talk about how the doctor explained the other ways that the hymen can stretch – horse riding, biking, and other physical activities – to which, the rapper quipped:
‘Look doc — she don’t ride no horses, she don’t ride no bikes, she don’t play no sports, man — just check the hymen, please, and give me back my results expeditiously.
And then, he added this statement:
I will say, as of her 18th birthday, her hymen is still intact.
Once again, we live in the 21st centurt; nay, 2019. We’re advocating women’s rights to their own bodies. We’re advocating planned parenthood, consent, premarital sex without the gender debate and we’re advocating, more importantly, the end of virginity tests.
Some people think you can tell if someone’s had sex before if their hymen is stretched open. But that’s not the case.
— Planned Parenthood (@PPFA) November 6, 2019
Say it with us:
YOU👏CAN’T👏TELL👏IF👏SOMEONE’S👏HAD👏SEX👏BY👏THE👏WAY👏THEIR👏HYMEN👏LOOKS👏OR👏FEELS
And we’re not the alone in thinking this is beyond just basic moral policing. Twitter had a lot of thoughts about this very disconcerting revelation by the rapper.
asking a doctor to check your daughter to see if she has been having sex is humiliating & sick af.
— patrisha (@patrishaluxe) November 6, 2019
& you can’t even always tell by a broken hymen. you can break your hymen by hurting yourself on a bike seat.
So instead of celebrating the fact that his child lived another year, TI spends his time hyper-fixating on whether or not her hymen is intact? This is so overwhelmingly weird and toxic and he needs to be stopped
— 𝑺𝒁𝑨’𝒔 𝑪𝒐𝒍𝒐𝒓𝒆𝒅 𝑾𝒊𝒈 (@sammyhammy727) November 6, 2019
I’m gonna need everyone, especially men, to let go of this “viriginity/hymen/purity” concept. It’s outdated, let it go. Virginity is made up. It doesn’t exist. Shut the fuck up.
— ig: honeymoonsoul_ (@briaruffen) November 6, 2019
This tweet about sums it up though:
This hymen talk is very strange and at the core of it teaches your daughters their bodies aren’t theirs. Don’t do that.
— ❂ (@sweetseducingdy) November 6, 2019
All in all, it’s 2019, let’s not legitimise something as regressive as virginity tests; especially in the name of parenthood.
