Rafael Zoehler lost his father at a young age of 8 to cancer. But this is not a story about Rafael. This is the heartwarming story about Rafael’s father who lost his life when he was just 27 years old. In a beautiful blog entry, Rafael wrote about the extremely emotional experience he had when his father passed away. He was only 8, and imagining what it would have been like, makes me shudder. 

But his father made sure that his only son had his presence throughout his life, that when he’s down and under, he’s there to give him words of encouragement, and when he’s sad, he’s there with words to make him feel better.  

Rafael’s father wrote a series of letters, and titled them. Reading some of these will make you hold your heart and shed a tear.

This envelope read, When I’m Gone

Son,

Foreseeing things, Rafael’s father had a letter for almost every occasion. Like this letter was in an envelope titled:

When you have the worst fight with your mom

Now apologize to her.

He found other letters when he was fishing through them. There was one titled, When you lose your virginity.  This is what it said: 

Congratulations, son.

His father’s letters became his life, he looked forward to read them every time he crossed each milestone. The next letter he read was

When you become a father

Now you’ll understand what real love is, son. You’ll realize how much you love her, but real love is something you’ll feel for this little thing over there. I don’t know if it’s a boy or a girl. I’m just a corpse, I’m not a fortune teller.

Have fun. It’s a great thing. Time is gonna fly now, so make sure you’ll be around. Never miss a moment, they never come back. Change diapers, bathe the baby, be a role model to this child. I think you have what it takes to be an amazing father, just like me.

The next one he read was weirdly reassuring. The smallest of the lot, but the one that evoked the most emotions as well. 

When your mother is gone

She is mine now.

With four words, he reassured his son that his mother is in a better place now. That she is safe, and he shouldn’t worry about her any more. 

Now we know that Rafael’s father was quite a man, far-sighted, and prepared for anything and everything. That is why he wrote a letter titled

When you realize you’re gay 

What can I say? I’m glad I’m dead.

Now, all joking aside, being half-dead made me realize that we care too much about things that don’t matter much. Do you think that changes anything, son?

Don’t be silly. Be happy.

Now isn’t that amazing. Even after years of his passing, Rafael’s father never really left him, his words always showed him what to do, and always propped him forward. This last letter is titled

When your time comes

Hello, son. I hope you’re an old man now.

You know, this letter was the easiest to write, and the first I wrote. It was the letter that set me free from the pain of losing you. I think your mind becomes clearer when you’re this close to the end. It’s easier to talk about it.

In my last days here I thought about the life I had. I had a brief life, but a very happy one. I was your father and the husband of your mother. What else could I ask for? It gave me peace of mind. Now you do the same.

My advice for you: you don’t have to be afraid

PS: I miss you

Hold your parents close. Value them and spend as much time as you can with them. And above all, love them unconditionally because they’re the only one’s who’ll never leave your side.